Results Day can be an emotional rollercoaster to say the least. As well as the relief that it's all over, you could either be feeling thrilled at the outcome or a sense of disappointment that things hadn鈥檛 quite worked out in the way you hoped - which could make the whole day seem quite overwhelming and confusing.
The good news is that these emotions are entirely normal - but it's important to acknowledge them for what they are. Here are our tips for how to deal with disappointment and turn any negative feelings into positive ones this results day.
"I鈥檓 so useless, I will never pass anything again."聽
Is this going through your head this results day? If you didn't quite get the聽grades you were hoping for this Summer, it doesn't mean you have nothing to offer and everything will go badly in the future.聽
Neutralise your thoughts
Try and pause and recognise how you are thinking about your disappointment. Try and neutralise your thoughts and take the negative energy away from it.聽This聽is a useful technique for life and will help you to move from 鈥榙oom and gloom鈥� to a more level basis:聽鈥淚鈥檓 disappointed but let鈥檚 see what is possible now鈥�.
Finding yourself in聽Clearing聽can be a shock聽and you may feel disappointed to be in this situation. We all feel disappointed sometimes and can have varying ways of dealing with this.
Clearing is an opportunity
Try to think of Clearing as an opportunity, instead of focusing on what you might have lost. The unexpected has opened new doors and different choices for you that you had not considered before. In the future, you might look back and see the positives that came out of it that otherwise might not have been there.
Don't blame yourself
When something doesn't go right, it's easy to blame and criticise yourself. Suddenly everything can seem聽gloomy and we create a situation where 鈥榗atastrophic鈥� thinking takes over - we get things out of proportion so they seem worse than they really are. If this happens to you, it's important to recognise it for what it is.
Six top tips for dealing with catastrophic thinking
- It's ok to say聽鈥榮top鈥� to yourself, to try and interrupt negative thoughts
- Remember that catastrophic thoughts are typically irrational, i.e., they are not based on facts or your usual experience
- Think about alternative outcomes: a bit like re-writing your own story
- Identify what you like about yourself and your successes, and remind yourself of them regularly
- Acknowledge that sometimes unwanted things happen, but that doesn鈥檛 make you a bad person
- Practise self-care strategies: things you like doing, such as spending time with friends, exercising and eating well.
What to do next
If you do find yourself in Clearing, don't panic.聽Here are some tips for finding and applying for a course without a frenzy:
- Try聽to keep calm and remember that you aren't alone - over 70,000 students found their course in Clearing last year
- Feel more prepared for your call to the hotline by writing down any questions you may have. If you have a number of 鈥楥learing options鈥�, keep a note as to who says what
- Have聽someone with you when聽calling the Clearing hotline for moral support
- Consider how important location is to you when looking for a university聽- your initial criteria may be more flexible than you first thought. It's common to change your mind on your subject area too!
Useful links for mental health support
If you'd like聽more information about mental health and self-care strategies, there are a number of useful places you can visit: